Sometimes friendships end, they can end because of conflict or fighting, but sometimes they can end because of something less traumatic. It can really hurt when friendships end, especially when you had a lot invested in the relationship or didn't want it to end. Some important things to remember when a friendship ends are the things that you can control.
1. You Can Control Your Reactions
Sometimes friendships end on unhappy terms, even if the other person is lashing out you get to choose your response. Just because the other person is choosing not to act kindly doesn't mean you have to as well. You can decide to stay out of their drama triangle and choose to be kind to them anyways.
2. You Can Choose How You Remember the Friendship
Have you ever lost a friendship and been so mad that you can't remember anything good about the relationship? There had to be something good about that person or you wouldn't have been their friend in the first place. You can decide that you want to remember the good things, this goes with a gratefulness mindset or a mindful approach to life. Try making an entry in your gratitude journal that lists all the reasons that you're glad to have had that person in your life. You can also write a list of all the things that this person taught you.
3. You Can Choose How to Move Forward
If the relationship is toxic do not go back, and I am proud of you for getting away; remember, friends can be abusers, not just parents or boyfriends and girlfriends. If the friendship wasn't toxic, you can decide if there is a chance for reconciliation, if there is, you can try to make up with them and be friends again. If being friends again isn't possible, then try to move forward with grace, you can decide to remove yourself from their social media or not, but don't use it as a platform to harass or stalk them, and certainly don't vaguebook about them, you're better than that and it's just not cute.
The bottom line is that it stinks to lose a friendship, and while at least half of it is out of your hands you at least have control over yourself and how you handle the things in your power.
1. You Can Control Your Reactions
Sometimes friendships end on unhappy terms, even if the other person is lashing out you get to choose your response. Just because the other person is choosing not to act kindly doesn't mean you have to as well. You can decide to stay out of their drama triangle and choose to be kind to them anyways.
2. You Can Choose How You Remember the Friendship
Have you ever lost a friendship and been so mad that you can't remember anything good about the relationship? There had to be something good about that person or you wouldn't have been their friend in the first place. You can decide that you want to remember the good things, this goes with a gratefulness mindset or a mindful approach to life. Try making an entry in your gratitude journal that lists all the reasons that you're glad to have had that person in your life. You can also write a list of all the things that this person taught you.
3. You Can Choose How to Move Forward
If the relationship is toxic do not go back, and I am proud of you for getting away; remember, friends can be abusers, not just parents or boyfriends and girlfriends. If the friendship wasn't toxic, you can decide if there is a chance for reconciliation, if there is, you can try to make up with them and be friends again. If being friends again isn't possible, then try to move forward with grace, you can decide to remove yourself from their social media or not, but don't use it as a platform to harass or stalk them, and certainly don't vaguebook about them, you're better than that and it's just not cute.
The bottom line is that it stinks to lose a friendship, and while at least half of it is out of your hands you at least have control over yourself and how you handle the things in your power.